Training Children May Help Your Marriage

When your kids are throwing a crazy fit about something, what do you tell them?
When they take something without asking, what do you say?
When your daughter gets mad at her brother & smacks him in the face,
what do you say?
USE YOUR WORDS.
Right?  Parents say it all the time.

How about us.  Are we always using our words?
Hopefully we aren't hitting & screaming & flailing on the ground.
We are adults (right?).

But, sometimes we just expect that our husband knows our thoughts.
"I shouldn't have to say this, surely he already knows."
Just like moms can't (completely) read minds, neither can husbands.
Sometimes we cry or pout & don't want to talk about it.
Just like a mom wants to know what the problem is, so she can help,
a husband needs you to tell him, too.
Tell him.  That doesn't mean the tears won't flow.
But, at least he'll know why, right?

Last week I was really stressed about something, I couldn't help but cry.
(Sometimes you just have to cry, right?  Especially when your pregnant...)
The stress was over things beyond his control.
I needed to tell him what the problem was.  And that, it wasn't him.
Or else, how would he know?
I needed to use my words.
Once I did, I felt a lot better.
And, I think he did, too.
Trying to go to sleep next a woman who keeps weeping cannot be an easy thing.
It had to stop.
After we both used our words to talk out the stressful situation
& discuss all our options, things were so much better.
I could go to sleep content.  I knew we would do the best we could.  Together.