It's not that I don't trust him. I do.
It's not that I feel bad about leaving the kids with him. I don't.
The thing is, I don't ask him to babysit our kids, because they are our kids.
They are not my kids, whom he watches occasionally.
He's the dad. He's is just as much of a parent as I am.
He may feed them something different for dinner than I would.
He may do a different bed time routine, when I am not there.
He may say "no" to things I would say "yes" to. (play dough)
He may say "yes" to things I would say "no" to. (extra stories at bed time)
We don't do every thing the same. But we are a team.
And we are both happy to be active parents.
But, sometimes we do things without the kids.
Sometimes I go grocery shopping at night.
Sometimes I have a wedding flower job on the weekend.
Tomorrow morning I will sit for 3 hours at the blood lab.
(I failed my first glucose test for gestational diabetes...)
True, I don't just assume he will be here to watch the kids whenever I want.
I do ask him. I ask my husband if it will work for him.
But, he does the same for me.
Being the stay at home mom (which I am so glad to be!)
doesn't me I am the one who is responsibility for the kids.
Scott does not assumes he should make whatever plans he wants at any time.
If he has plans for something to go out & do, he asks if it will work for me.
Scott cares for our kids often. But, I will never ask him to babysit them.