I am happy to serve you. But you are not my boss. You are happy to serve me, too.
You & I walk side by side.
We follow Christ together & beckon our children to follow.
I don't know if we are complementarians or egalitarians.
Do we fit a label? (And do we care?)
We are different from one another. We complement each other.
I cannot do all you can. You cannot do all I can.
I know Christ would carry our family through, if one of us should leave this world.
But in a very real sense, we need each other & we know that.
I don't obey you & you don't command me.
Nor are you hen-pecked by me.
We submit to each other in love.
We work together.
We decide together.
And sometimes it is a little scary because I am a full grown up with real responsibility.
But I am grateful you trust me and respect me.
I respect & trust you, too. Love & respect goes both ways.
I am a homemaker & proud to be.
You are one, too.
We make this home together & nurture our love.
You provide happily for our family.
But I do, too.
We labor in different ways to meet the needs of our family together,
as we are gifted & able.
We learn to make love by loving each other with all we have.
We do not read sex manuals (Christian or not). Why should we?
We two are just giving all we can.
All I have is yours. All you have is mine.
Sometimes it may not be much.
And that is okay.
(for richer & poorer, in sickness & in health, in exhaustion & in energy.)
I learn to love who you are, not who I may expect you to be.
You do the same for me.
You buy your pants at OSH & that is okay with me.
Not because I love those pants, but I love the man who loves wearing them.
I ask your advice as I head to the hair salon & you tell me you don't care.
You tell me I am beautiful. And you wonder aloud how you are so lucky.
Long hair, short hair, skirt, sweats, grubby or make-up.
It does not seem to matter to you. You look at me the same.
Because you love me.
|and we have indeed aged in 7 years|
p.s. While I did write this inspired by discussions of the Driscoll's book, Real Marriage,
I have not read the book & this is in no way a review of their book.