Monday, April 5, 2010

Forever a Student

It's Monday. Here's my thought on marriage relationships.  Keep learning new things about your spouse.  Don't start believing you know it all!  You can never know everything about someone.  A few weeks back my friend Melissa said that good ways to ignite conversation is to ask a question.  I think that is a great point.

A lot of the time my husband & I may be able to guess what the other one is thinking.  Often one of us will say something, and the other will say, "I was just thinking the same thing!"  And then we'll say something really cheesy & romantic, like, "that's because we are one."  


But, really, the truth is, we can't read each other's minds.  That's good.  Only God knows that much about us.
There will always be something new you can learn about your spouse.  I am sure of it.  Even if your married to someone really boring.

Ask him his opinion.  Ask him stuff about his childhood.  Ask him about his dreams.  Ask him how you can pray for him.  Ask him what excites him.

Sometimes your studying can be silent, too.  You don't need to always ask questions.  That may get annoying if you ask too many questions.  Listening is something that a student needs to do a lot of.  Listen to your spouse.  And learn!

If you want to be positive that there will always be something new to be learnt about you, then keep being a student in all of life.  Be a student of your spouse.  But, be learning other new stuff, too.  That will make you that much broader of a person for your spouse to learn about.  They will have to study you harder.  I think it will make the school of your marriage relationship more exciting.

Alright.  Go do your homework.


7 comments:

Stef said...

"Even if your married to someone really boring."

That made me LOL :-)

big hair betty said...

Good stuff, as usual!!

Tina said...

I love the part about even if they are boring! Made me laugh!

But, seriously, after many years of being married it is a good reminder to "be a student". Same goes for our friends and kids. We think we know them well, too, and make many assumptions, I'm sure. I know I'm always growing and changing. They are too.

LindaFaye said...

I agree. One time Sean and I were driving to visit family for Christmas. I asked him, "What is your favorite Christmas memory?" His answer really opened up more of his past that I didn't know a lot about. I was being kinda cheesy, but it ended up being quite rewarding. I'll have to ask some more questions. Thanks for reminding me!

Hannah said...

I love these ideas Erin! These are even helpful for people like me who are in a serious relationship and looking towards marriage! It so awesome to think there are still so many more things to learn about each other, even after marriage! It never ends :)

Hannah said...

I love these ideas Erin! These are even helpful for people like me who are in a serious relationship and looking towards marriage! It so awesome to think there are still so many more things to learn about each other, even after marriage! It never ends :)

Stef said...

"Even if your married to someone really boring."

That made me LOL :-)