I recently read a little book by Jay Adams on the Christian Home. I want to share a summary of the first chapter. I found it simply profound & profoundly simple.
He compares a Christian home with a non-Christian home. Every one has problems & issues that they are daily facing. They may have the same exact struggles & problems. The difference is what is done about the problems.
Christians must admit their sins. Call them what they are.
If we believe the Bible, we know that no one is perfect! I am not. You are not. Your spouse is not. Your kids are not. We are all sinners. Don't let it shock you. Admit to it. And call it what it is.
Don't try to just brush off a harsh word as, "I was having a hard day."
"I was just tired, that's why I ignored you & your needs."
"If you had been nicer, I would've been nicer, too."
"I love you, so it shouldn't matter to you if I did something hurtful; I try my best."
If we make excuses, shift blame & re-name our sin (to somehow sound pleasant), then where is the hope?
Expect there to be sin; in your own life, and in the lives of others. No one is perfect.
If we can identify the problem as sin, then there is good news!
Jesus Came to Save Sinners
Confess it as sin. He died to pay the penalty. And He lives again in victory. He saved you from your sin & He is saving you from you sins. Because of Jesus, you have hope. You don't have to dwell in your live of sin. He gives victory. If the Spirit of God is working in you, then He will give you the grace & power to live rightly. Never perfectly in this life. But, there will be a progression in righteousness.
He sums up the chapter saying, "The Christian home, then, is a place where sinful persons face the problems of a sinful world. Yet, they face them together with God and His resources, which are all centered in Christ. Sinners live in the Christian home, but the sinless Savior lives there too. That is what makes the difference!"