tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post2704614763250787997..comments2023-11-15T11:41:04.313-08:00Comments on Everyday Carnival: Commonality May Take WorkErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00616238682696645579noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-40469250825053925712011-03-22T14:42:33.547-07:002011-03-22T14:42:33.547-07:00I enjoyed this, Erin; your thoughts were well put....I enjoyed this, Erin; your thoughts were well put.<br><br>Ideas to ignite conversation? Hmm, I guess for us, making sure that we *do* things together gives us things to talk about. He participates in things I like (gardening, walking, yoga) and I participate in things he likes (disc golf, ultimate frisbee, board games) - and those give us fun things to do together as well as give us common things to talk about (besides the daily things of work & home, which I believe are also important to talk about on a daily basis). Of course, as far as talking about "deeper" things... we talk about books we read, sermons, Bible study discussion, child rearing, etc. We have found that simply asking questions (keep asking more) of one another is one of the best ways to delve deeper into conversation with one another, and to remain deep in one another's lives.<br>This will be a fun weekly subject!Melissa Joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487515735262185690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-46691712926336440442011-03-22T14:42:33.066-07:002011-03-22T14:42:33.066-07:00really enjoyed this post as well... I will be comi...really enjoyed this post as well... I will be coming back for more!Debhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11623037851016904201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-69329116166505448312010-03-25T11:54:35.586-07:002010-03-25T11:54:35.586-07:00Good points Erin, commonality does take work somet...Good points Erin, commonality does take work sometimes. I now play computer games, listen to talk radio, tinker with coding, blog, use twitter, eat sushi, etc all because those are things Nick likes and so I gave them a try. He too has tried many things because he knows I like them. In the end, we have lots to do/talk about all because we love each other and are willing to try what the other one loves.<br /><br />As far as igniting conversation, you mentioned most of mine already. One other one I thought of are those "conversation starter" question cards. Some of them are entirely stupid, but some lead to interesting conversation!Kristahttp://krista.sobrakseaton.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-15039994414464920662010-03-25T09:35:38.534-07:002010-03-25T09:35:38.534-07:00really enjoyed this post as well... I will be comi...really enjoyed this post as well... I will be coming back for more!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11623037851016904201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-24947717586883308372010-03-24T15:23:08.555-07:002010-03-24T15:23:08.555-07:00another great post Erin. Thanks for doing it and ...another great post Erin. Thanks for doing it and giving really good things to think about!Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00569882911364244685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-37377846714340598232010-03-23T17:10:14.128-07:002010-03-23T17:10:14.128-07:00Sean and I love to talk theology. I know, sounds o...Sean and I love to talk theology. I know, sounds odd. But it's our life. We love it. Also, reading a good book adds fuel for good talks. We have never had many common interests as far as hobbies, so that's been interesting and he IS a runner. I am not. But it's not something he's felt we need to do together. Phew!LindaFayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08640637058857410359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-40860208722875212922010-03-23T06:57:34.166-07:002010-03-23T06:57:34.166-07:00I enjoyed this, Erin; your thoughts were well put....I enjoyed this, Erin; your thoughts were well put.<br /><br />Ideas to ignite conversation? Hmm, I guess for us, making sure that we *do* things together gives us things to talk about. He participates in things I like (gardening, walking, yoga) and I participate in things he likes (disc golf, ultimate frisbee, board games) - and those give us fun things to do together as well as give us common things to talk about (besides the daily things of work & home, which I believe are also important to talk about on a daily basis). Of course, as far as talking about "deeper" things... we talk about books we read, sermons, Bible study discussion, child rearing, etc. We have found that simply asking questions (keep asking more) of one another is one of the best ways to delve deeper into conversation with one another, and to remain deep in one another's lives.<br />This will be a fun weekly subject!Melissa Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12487515735262185690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-22582570370010894692010-03-22T22:43:12.745-07:002010-03-22T22:43:12.745-07:00also, I don't think this idea is cheesy at all...also, I don't think this idea is cheesy at all! when it comes to marriages, we can all benefit from spurring one another to love and good deeds, right?!Stefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06314577454372964927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-32802635769136280612010-03-22T22:42:12.232-07:002010-03-22T22:42:12.232-07:00I sometimes *wish* I had this "not knowing wh...I sometimes *wish* I had this "not knowing what to talk about" issue. You know I am quite the talker ;-) <br />Jason is a big talker too, so for us, the problem of not knowing what to say is rare. For me the issue lies in dealing with the self centeredness of "his day couldn't have been as hard as mine, so I will punish him with my bad mood when he gets home." That's what I've been working on this past month; meeting him at the door, with a very cheerful greeting and appreciating the hard work I KNOW he is doing for 8+ hours away from the home. <br /><br />The going out on dates things... I think, if you can afford to get away together, even for just a few hours, do it. Its the same reason dating each other before you got married was so fun and romantic. Little trips out together are the best. A few weeks ago Jase and I grabbed coffee and went to the nearby lake and just sat for a couple hours and gabbed. We talked about anything and everything - just like back when we were dating and had very few cares :) Its fun to walk around, just the two of us, holding hands, maybe giving an uninterrupted smooch every now and again. I love it. And its always fresh reminders to me of how madly in love with my man I am and how much he still likes to date me, his wife of 6 years, mother to his 3 kids :)<br /><br />But I know there have been plenty of times when we cannot afford a sitter (this is when family comes in handy!) and couldn't afford to go out and spend any money... so we would create fun dates at home, after kids were tucked in bed. A board game, there are books couples can get with fun romantic game-like ideas, Jason loves to read to me, watching movies together and then staying up for hours discussing the movie :) and we have a tradition where every Sunday night, after kids are in bed, we pour glasses of wine and go sit on the porch and sip and chat. Its a good way to end the week. Since moving up here where its much colder at night, we've taken these dates to the back deck, by the fire pit :) <br /><br />I often forget that not all couples got to be best friends for 10 years prior to marriage... but I agree with you, even though commonality might take work for some, its possible for all. <br /><br />Being super creative with your spouse is SO fun! I liked this post, Erin. Good reminders.Stefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06314577454372964927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474479852287201750.post-32576076668086862782010-03-22T21:29:39.341-07:002010-03-22T21:29:39.341-07:00I love this post Erin! Ryan and I love going on &q...I love this post Erin! Ryan and I love going on "dates" as often as possible. We, however, love talking about ALL things including our kids and Ryan's work. <br />I too believe one needs to make an effort to learn more about your spouses interests even if you're "not that in to it".<br /><br />I'm looking forward to more Marriage Talk Mondays!Holly D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07242043048798940858noreply@blogger.com